I let it sit overnight gave the benefit of doubt like they were drunk or something. First thing this morning “you boys think you’re always right” made it all too easy.
Yea, you don’t invest time in a woman like this. I get the sense she’s jaded and unhappy. I don’t think she’s uninterested in OP. I think she’s uninterested in dating as a whole. A black hole for time. She will only suck it out of you. Peace.
She didn’t ask one question about YOU or show any curiousity about YOU after all those messages. That should be all you need to know. Just move on.
Noooooooope. She doesn’t think she needs to put in effort. Been there done that, no thanks. She’s not wrong to want that, but people who say that out loud are usually so full of shit their world has a brown filter.
Ask her why she’s trying to date, as opposed to waiting for her father to sell her to the highest bidder. Because that’s what it actually means to be a princess.
That statement alone would be enough for me to move on and not think about it. I don’t want to date some dolt who thinks she’s a princess. Anyone who thinks they “deserve” to be treated a particular way just screams entitled and cringey.
You made it clear you’re only looking for something casual, and she made it clear she’s frustrated with dating apps and casual men. She wants more. Obviously not the right match. She’s probably been hurt a lot and now she’s shutting down. Could learn to spell though.
Women thinking they deserve more than they truly do ?? Men who think they deserve sex for doing the bare minimum
I don’t think her expectations are wrong, it’s her defeatist attitude and info dumping that were unnecessary. Why match with someone on a dating app just to tell them you’re done with dating? I understand her frustrations but no need to take it out on a stranger.
It’s an interesting psychology, men do it too https://datingranking.net/nl/lumen-dating-overzicht/, it’s a shared insecurity and fetishizing being “rescued” without being open about that being the way you want to be taken. IMO it’s pathetic. It’s just an immature way to try to get “won over”.
I get that dating sucks, but whining endlessly doesn’t make anyone want to change your situation
Translation: I suck at communicating and expect men to know when I need/want something OR I only pick shit guys who make their flags clear and you choose to look past them. Or both.
I’m almost a year into Bumble and this lesson has taken a long time to learn. It’s a waste of time to try changing anyone’s mind out of this level of cynicism.
She came in with a negative mindset from the jump. Could be insecurities or frustration with previous matches, but either way it would probably be best if she stepped back from it to gather herself cuz you were doing nothing wrong lol
As a woman myself, I don’t get why she’d be talking like that to you (or anyone that she could potentially date). Like that’s the kind of whiny messages you send your friends when stressed about failed dates. My only guess is she was hoping you’d be like, “Don’t worry! I will make you my princess and spoil you!”
Ahhhh I matched with a guy whose profile I came across on both Bumble and Hinge and liked them both. He wanted a voice call, sure, and. I wasn’t sure it was the same person! The profiles seemed confident, sweet, and funny, on the phone he just came across insecure, lots of empty pauses. Kept circling back to how awkward dating is. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt that he was nervous but it was a real turn off.